I have been a stay-at-home mom, "BY CHOICE" for almost 5 years now. Most people I know react as if a stay-at-home mom does not have any work other than sitting at home, enjoying life and watching tv.
Here, I have a question...
Do you know how much it takes to be a home-maker? Do you know the meaning of working 24x7x365 without getting paid and without getting days off? Do you know the meaning of unconditional love, sacrifice and feeling happiness in the success of your loved ones?
If you do, I am very happy and proud of your existence but if you don't, please continue reading. To all the people who think staying at home means relaxing and watching tv, this article is a "must read" for you. And all you stay-at-home moms, this article is a salute to all of you for your love, sacrifices, dedication and sincerity.
A stay-at-home mom is one who choses to raise her children, over her career. I am one of them and I am proud of that decision of mine. I am proud that I chose to focus on giving my kids the best early years at home that I could. And thats a privilege!
When I was working, nobody cared what I did or what careers I switched, but as soon as I became a stay-at-home mom, everyone has had something to say. From being skeptical to feeling pity and someone even questioning about what I was doing with my life.
If I am taking a few years off for raising my kids, I am doing what I think is good for my family. You see, "MY DECISION" and "MY FAMILY", please remind yourself of that.
I can go writing on and on about what I do nonstop from 6am to 9pm, but unless you've been there, it would sound like a child's play.
In short, as a stay-at-home-mom, nothing about my day is mine.
I don't wake up simply, I straightaway go to the kitchen to pack lunch for my husband. Before I am done, my kids are up and I am running around to catch up with the morning chores, listening to their temper tantrums, feeding them or grooming them. And mind you I have not groomed myself for the day yet, nor had coffee or breakfast.
I just don't have food whenever I want to. I have to make sure the kids are fed first, then occupied in an activity, the house is cleaned up, the dishes are done and in the meanwhile the kids are to be fed again.
Feed the kids, take them for an outing, come back home, cook again (snack time you see!), make them busy in some activity, try to make tea for myself and hear them fighting in the meanwhile. Go back again to them, try to handle a temper tantrum. Manage household chores, dinner, feed the kids yet again and finally it is 8:30pm. Ahaa time for bed. Wait! No! What? The sleep ritual, a bed time story, a few more questions and answers and finally they are off to sleep.
I don't work whenever I want to. I have to consult my husband, check his schedules, check the kids school schedule, then decide if I can do the work at home with the kids or I need a baby sitter. Then look for a baby sitter.
Even my body is not mine. For the last 5 years, I hardly remember when I had gone for a pamper treatment for myself or have had the leisure to sleep till late without the thought of kids and chores going on in my head.
Like every other girl out there, I would love to get recognition, remuneration, and a handsome bonus. But I'll be honest, I saw my kids take their first steps, I saw them speak their first words. I have been with them as a pillar of trust and love at every step of their early years, I have raised them the way I wanted to, and it far surpassed the satisfaction I would have got from a promotion or a bonus.
Hands down, these have been some of the best moments of my life.
If I were working, I would have got paycheques, I would have been running to chase someone's dream, called a servant, I could even have been replaced if deemed unfit. I would have been a number. I am not being harsh, I am being real.
But I am JUST a stay-at-home mother who you think is JUST enjoying her life at home. But in my eyes I am a mother who JUST brought twin lives in this universe and JUST moulded those lives to become responsible beings, who JUST manages, directs and handles her kids and household as you might do your office chores. I am the one who JUST teaches morals, manners, and hygiene to my twins and am JUST a foundation rock for my family.
So before you look down at me or any stay-at-home mom you know, think twice. She is not a number or a servant or a calculation, she is the strongest foundation of a family. She deserves to be respected the same way as you, for if you calculate the jobs she does and convert it into money, your salaries would look menial in comparison to the work she does everyday.
Here, I have a question...
Do you know how much it takes to be a home-maker? Do you know the meaning of working 24x7x365 without getting paid and without getting days off? Do you know the meaning of unconditional love, sacrifice and feeling happiness in the success of your loved ones?
If you do, I am very happy and proud of your existence but if you don't, please continue reading. To all the people who think staying at home means relaxing and watching tv, this article is a "must read" for you. And all you stay-at-home moms, this article is a salute to all of you for your love, sacrifices, dedication and sincerity.
A stay-at-home mom is one who choses to raise her children, over her career. I am one of them and I am proud of that decision of mine. I am proud that I chose to focus on giving my kids the best early years at home that I could. And thats a privilege!
When I was working, nobody cared what I did or what careers I switched, but as soon as I became a stay-at-home mom, everyone has had something to say. From being skeptical to feeling pity and someone even questioning about what I was doing with my life.
If I am taking a few years off for raising my kids, I am doing what I think is good for my family. You see, "MY DECISION" and "MY FAMILY", please remind yourself of that.
In short, as a stay-at-home-mom, nothing about my day is mine.
I don't wake up simply, I straightaway go to the kitchen to pack lunch for my husband. Before I am done, my kids are up and I am running around to catch up with the morning chores, listening to their temper tantrums, feeding them or grooming them. And mind you I have not groomed myself for the day yet, nor had coffee or breakfast.
I just don't have food whenever I want to. I have to make sure the kids are fed first, then occupied in an activity, the house is cleaned up, the dishes are done and in the meanwhile the kids are to be fed again.
Feed the kids, take them for an outing, come back home, cook again (snack time you see!), make them busy in some activity, try to make tea for myself and hear them fighting in the meanwhile. Go back again to them, try to handle a temper tantrum. Manage household chores, dinner, feed the kids yet again and finally it is 8:30pm. Ahaa time for bed. Wait! No! What? The sleep ritual, a bed time story, a few more questions and answers and finally they are off to sleep.
I don't work whenever I want to. I have to consult my husband, check his schedules, check the kids school schedule, then decide if I can do the work at home with the kids or I need a baby sitter. Then look for a baby sitter.
Even my body is not mine. For the last 5 years, I hardly remember when I had gone for a pamper treatment for myself or have had the leisure to sleep till late without the thought of kids and chores going on in my head.
Like every other girl out there, I would love to get recognition, remuneration, and a handsome bonus. But I'll be honest, I saw my kids take their first steps, I saw them speak their first words. I have been with them as a pillar of trust and love at every step of their early years, I have raised them the way I wanted to, and it far surpassed the satisfaction I would have got from a promotion or a bonus.
Hands down, these have been some of the best moments of my life.
If I were working, I would have got paycheques, I would have been running to chase someone's dream, called a servant, I could even have been replaced if deemed unfit. I would have been a number. I am not being harsh, I am being real.
But I am JUST a stay-at-home mother who you think is JUST enjoying her life at home. But in my eyes I am a mother who JUST brought twin lives in this universe and JUST moulded those lives to become responsible beings, who JUST manages, directs and handles her kids and household as you might do your office chores. I am the one who JUST teaches morals, manners, and hygiene to my twins and am JUST a foundation rock for my family.
So before you look down at me or any stay-at-home mom you know, think twice. She is not a number or a servant or a calculation, she is the strongest foundation of a family. She deserves to be respected the same way as you, for if you calculate the jobs she does and convert it into money, your salaries would look menial in comparison to the work she does everyday.
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